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Rose Colored Glasses?

A classmate recently shared this article on our graduate program’s Facebook page. If you don’t want to read the whole thing, the article is about the dangers of too much positive thinking. This obviously struck a chord for me due to my weekly gratitude posts, which I use to shift my focus to the better parts of life. The article uses some weak examples; one is about how, during breakups, some people try to think that “everything happens for a reason” instead of figuring out what they could have done better. But isn’t LEARNING from mistakes in relationships ALSO POSITIVE? I mean, I personally believe learning is more positive than wallowing in self pity or worrying about being single for life. I guess what I am trying to say is that, to me, positivity is all about taking action. When I dislike something about my life, ideally, I want to think about what I can do differently. If I can’t do anything about it, then I need to adjust my attitude.

20140319-122226.jpg (source) Many issues that come up in life are out of our control. I think we have to deal with them in any way possible – this is especially true for those of us who are lucky enough to have all of our basic needs met. What’s the point of feeling sad about something that will not change? Life is unfair, but it doesn’t have to be miserable! As an aspiring counselor, I know for a fact that dealing with pain or repressed emotions is ESSENTIAL. However, I also feel that daily issues – like a roommate not taking out the trash (unless it continues to be a problem, haha) – should be brushed off more often than not. Life is short, so we should at least try to be a little bit positive!

20140319-123626.jpg (source) Overall, I think we need to focus on deep issues that affect our lives/attitudes/relationships/etc, stop sweating the small stuff, and be grateful for what we have 🙂 I really want to know what you guys think about this. When is it necessary to express anger? How much positivity is too much positivity?